Swinging Fans

A lot of people see swinging as something highly impossible for them. I don’t really blame them, because our lifestyle can be hard to accept for them. There is no doubt that swinging requires a certain degree of broadness of one’s perspective; you need to be open minded to see the swinging lifestyle proportionally. What most people, especially the ones who cannot see swinging objectively, don’t realize is that swinging is a lot more than just having sexual activities with people other than our spouses.

Swinging is about trust. A lot of people, especially the non-swinger, don’t understand that our lifestyle is about love and trust. In fact, there’s so much love that sex acts don’t actually triggers jealousy or anger; swingers simply know that there are no feelings involved in general and that the love they have for their spouse is far greater than anything imaginable.

When swinging is seen to be a factor that destroys a relationship or a marriage, it is seen from the wrong angle. I have always advised that swinging must be a two-party desire, one that both the male and the female enjoy. If you are dragging, to put it in a blunt way, your spouse to swinging clubs then you are in fact destroying your relationship. Amplified emotions are what swinging actually produces; if you love your spouse than you will love them even more, vice versa. If you have unsolved issues, then swinging will surely get you into a lot of trouble.

For most swinging couple I’ve met, swinging is about saying “I love you too much” to their spouses. It took their marriages to a completely different level and filled it with joy and happiness. Once you know these true essences of swinging, you will be able to enjoy the lifestyle even more.

Swingers are happier in their relationships than those who are not. I know it may seem bloat, but the statement you just read is indeed a fact. A scientific research was conducted using the help of internet questionnaires and the results of that research come to everybody’s surprise. 90% of swingers with bad relationship said that they improve their bond and overall relationship pleasures after swinging. Although the research can be biased, especially because internet questionnaires can be quite biased sometimes, but there are couples who live a better marriage after swinging.

In order to be able to improve their relationships with their real spouse, swingers must know several rules and points. The first is to be completely open about the swinging itself. If you are having sex with someone other than your spouse without them knowing, you are simply cheating and not swinging. Your partner also need to accept the idea of swinging and not feel threatened or rejects the idea altogether. They need to enjoy the process as well for the benefits to be mutual, and without this swinging will only dooms a marriage or a relationship.

Another important factor is how strong your emotional bonds and commitments to your spouse are. Swinging is not just about having sex with other people, it is about allowing both parties to have fun. It is only natural than one party desires swinging more than the other, but that doesn’t mean the hold-out party not being able to enjoy the process is acceptable. You need to make sure both parties have fun for it to actually improve your marriages instead of causing grudges and ruining the relationship.

So does swinging improve relationships? I think it is safe to say that, with proper approach, it can very much improve relationships and marriages.

I know you may be intrigued reading the title of this article. Before you jump to conclusions, thinking that this article is about pathological clustering of people in all the wrong ways, let me make it clear that I am talking about the Saints and Sinners Ball; an event very popular among Australian swingers. The Saints and Sinners Ball is a yearly event started around 18 years ago to house open-minded adults, exhibitionists, and people looking for mature fun in contented and safe venue. It is an off-premises event for swingers and adventurous couples — by off-premises means you must actually go to hotels or go home to engage sexual activities, although along the way they are more permissive and provide areas where people can actually do more than just dancing — with tons of funs and attractions.

The Saints and Sinners Ball enforce a strict dress code: lingerie or see-through attires for women and G-String and accessories for men. Other attires are allowed as long as they are ‘Naughty’. Guests would be adventurous couples or singe women; no single men are allowed inside the venue. Of course, guests need to accept what happens on the night as adult fun and only that. The venue is well-secured and you will have no trouble at all enjoying the party and more.

The next Saints and Sinners Ball will be held in Melbourne at New Year’s Eve. Of course you need to book your ticket early because entrants are highly limited. There is no doubt that you will celebrate New Year in a completely different, definitely enjoyable, way. It is probably the best place for swinging couples to celebrate their New Year’s Eve and have a lot of fun at the same time. You need to book early though; Saints and Sinners from all around Australia — even the world — will dash for a place at the ball.

Swinging communities is getting more and more popular in Australia. There are couples placing personal ads to find swinging mates and groups. They are actually forming a nice swinging community whose benefits extend beyond swinging itself. Not all people can accept swinging as part of their lifestyle yet tried to engage swinging because their spouse asks them to. It is only natural to seek help from couples already enjoying the swinging lifestyle, and you will be able to find one at the swinging community.

There are a lot of benefits of joining swinging communities other than simply finding swinging partners. Since members of swinging communities share the same lifestyle, there will be a lot of experiences being exchanged among community members. These experiences will open up minds and point of views to improve personal swinging experiences even more. Some swinging couples also prefer to know the person they are swinging with before actually get involved in sexual activities, and swinging communities can help ease the process.

Beyond that, members of swinging communities have been known to bond very closely and care for each other. It is indeed a form of support group and you will most likely find it easier to get help in times of need. Members of swinging communities can be anyone from a regular school teacher to top-notch doctors or lawyers. Gatherings and events will help you get to know members better and will surely form bonds among members solidly.

There is no doubt that Australia has one of the most active swinging communities in the world. Joining these communities will help you find swinging partners, exchange experiences and information, and bond with other people who enjoy the same lifestyle. You will be able to enjoy the whole swinging experiences even more by being a member of these select groups of people.

More and more people are getting into the swinging lifestyle. Some would say that swinging had actually save their marriages, while others just enjoy swinging to keep everything fresh and exciting with their partners. There are several kinds of swinging suitable for different kinds of people, and understanding these kinds of swinging can help you gain a better swinging lifestyle in the future.

Most beginners will surely engage soft swinging before they take on the more serious form of this lifestyle. Soft swinging is basically trading partners only during foreplay and couples return to their original mate for actual sex. There are great deals of emotional waves involved in swinging and soft swinging can help a lot of people adapt to this lifestyle and enjoy it more.

Closed swinging is a bit deeper than soft swinging. In closed swinging, partners are actually involved in sexual intercourse. If you are not a swinger, it may be hard for you to understand the concept. However swingers can enjoy closed swinging as a lifestyle. It helps them channel sexual drives and attractions to other people in a healthy way; remember that their spouse approved the act of swinging and in most cases enjoy the swinging lifestyle as well.

The last form of swinging, the open swinging, is more voyeuristic. It is considered to be the toughest form of swinging because being present and watching while their partner is having sex with another person is not easy indeed. Despite the fact that there are people who enjoy open swinging, average swinging couples usually limits their experiences to closed swinging.

The concept and different forms of swinging can really open you up to whole new experiences. If you are thinking about swinging, start with soft swinging and be in your comfort zone before engaging the more serious forms.

There is no doubt that getting involved in swinging as part of your lifestyle for the first time can be a definite emotional rollercoaster. There is no need to feel sorry for how you feel because it is completely natural; you can’t picture your spouse having sexual intercourse with other person and accepting that very picture can be quite hard for some people. If you are thinking about engaging the lifestyle for the first time, I have a couple of tips that you can use to help you ease the process and enjoy the entire swinging lifestyle faster.

First, you need to make sure that your transition to the swinging lifestyle is smooth. Make sure both you and your spouse understand completely what you are getting into. If you both agreed on trying swinging as part of your marriage life, both of you must completely realize that swinging is just about physical attractions and realizing the fact that one can be attracted to other people yet still deeply in love with his or her actual partner. You and your spouse may be swinging, but that does not mean you don’t love each other anymore.

Now, easing to the swinging community does require practice. It would be best if you can find a swinging couple and have personal conversations with them. Swinging couples are usually glad to help new couple engage the lifestyle, because they understand how hard it is to start. They have been there, and their experiences can greatly help you and your spouse understand what it takes to swing.

Last but not least, take it one step at a time. There is no need to rush things just because you want to get it over with. Swinging is something you need to enjoy to be beneficial to your relationship, and once you can enjoy the lifestyle you can start feeling those benefits.

However, the swinging is practiced for fun and pleasure but there are some deadly risks attached to the activity. So, before entering into a swinger lifestyle you should be responsible and health conscious. The deadly risks include sexually transmitted fatal diseases. One should always be careful and aware of the symptoms of such diseases. Before indulging in sexual intercourse if you come across any of the symptoms in your swinging partner then you should simply avoid physical contact with the person.

Moreover, if a swinger suffers any of the symptoms of such diseases then one should always consult the physicians without any delay. Some of the sexually transmitted diseases are gonorrhea, AIDS, genital warts, syphilis, herpes, hepatitis etc. Some of these infections are very uncomfortable, and others are deadly which have no cure. 

Most of these are not curable because of the resistant bacteria and viruses against the best antibiotics available. So the educational awareness for the prevention of the disease is very important. People involved in swinging should know that even kissing can transmit diseases like herpes and syphilis.

Condoms are the most important protection against the diseases like AIDS, gonorrhea. But they are not effective against herpes trichomoniasis and Chlamydia. So, one should try to have healthy sex and always make sure that the partner is disease free.

There are some more suggestions and tips to make a swinging experience enjoyable. Try that your social and sexual inhibitions do not hinder the swinging pleasure, so be confident with a warm smile. Stay in with a partner as long as you feel comfortable, let other couples approach you.

Try not to get emotionally involved in a relationship. To have complete pleasure, without apprehension, never break the fundamental rule of not cheating your partner, if any, before indulging in swinging life style.

Swinging began in early 1950’s in the wealthy high class society of America. But as it was not acceptable and widespread in the society, so the only means to meet other swingers was through the personal advertisement in the newspapers. During 1960’s in California, America the first organisation ever called “Sexual Freedom League” was opened for the swingers. Later on, a club named North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) was fashioned to encourage swingers by giving them all the required information about the lifestyles and ways of enjoying as swingers.

The swinging should not be confused with swapping. Swapping is exchange of wives to have sex, amongst adult married couples of wealthier, high class societies. On the other hand Swinging can be involving an unmarried or a married individual or a couple. But both the activities may involve group sex.

Swinging in today’s world is becoming a popular and an adaptive lifestyle for adults especially in the western countries. Many individuals and couples who are interested in enjoying life as a swinger can get information through the internet, clubs, or many of the organizations that are dedicated to this type of sexual activity.

The swinging partners are available in clubs and parties of close swinging communities, private swinging with friends and ads in swinging publications. These clubs not only offer parties, events but also organise workshops, discussions and travel information for the swinger members. Almost all the countries have many swinging clubs, associations and organizations that are actively engaged in encouraging the practice of swinging, legally or illegally. But the largest numbers of registered participants are in the United States of America. Other countries where swinging is popular are Canada, France, Switzerland, Germany and Japan. But it is extending its wings into Australia, New Zealand, and South Africa.

Wife-swapping is a recreation social and sexual intercourse between consulting adults.  Swapping involves swingers commonly consisting of male and female couples meeting with other male-female couples for sex and familiarity.

In this kind of activity couples express their sexual desires and fantasies, being courageous about it. Couples favour Swapping by stating their view point that swapping is a comfortable and compromising position that allow them to enjoy sex with different individuals to satisfy their inner, hidden desires and playing the role of husband and wife at the same time. They are able to fulfill their sexual longing and craving with whosoever they fancy instead of having dull sex with same partner everyday.

From the historical evidences from the museums and various libraries, it is proven that wife- swapping probably began during the World War II (1941-1944), amongst the defense personals, especially, air force pilots. Their fatality rate was extremely high. So, they used to organise parties before the military actions and exchange wives of their colleagues in those parties to make sure that if anything happens to them then the families will be taken care of including the sexual needs of their wives. So, this is how it started and spread from them to other groups and parts of the country.

There were also “Key clubs” where husbands used to toss the keys of their houses in a room where it was supposed to be drawn at random by their wives. The owner of the selected key used to be the sexual partner for the evening.

It was in 1950’s that media reported these activities in the United States of America and named it Wife Swapping. During that time the leading way to meet other wife swappers was through personal advertisements. These publications used to illustrate nude and revealing photos of couples involved in swapping.

Swinging can be described as a social and sexual intercourse for fun, with someone who is not your partner, but you enjoy the complete permission and consent of the other person, thus acting as swingers. It is also called as “lifestyle”.
The activity gained more wakefulness in 1960’s due to the research and development of advanced contraceptives. People became very progressive with broad outlook. Swinging should not be confused with swapping as swinging involves both, couples and single males and females. Broadmindedness in adults attracted the ideas of enjoying sex and materialising fantasies with different partners, instead of the droning monogamous relationship.
Swinging is basically a trendy recreational activity for broad minded adults. The most common manner is an adult male & female couple meeting other couples for sex and sometimes involving in close relationships also.  Swinging can be off-premises or on-premises. Couples may invite others to their home for swinging or there can be some arrangement in a place outside for swinging.
Swinging is practiced in various clubs, parties, orgies and gangs etc. The encouraging fact of a swinger lies in being honest and open with the partner rather than cheating. So, the swinging community involves all like minded single or couples. Swinging is a fun but there are some risks attached to it. People get engaged in it for short-lived enjoyment but sometimes it becomes complicated when regular sex with a swinger leads to emotional involvement in a relationship. You could also run the risk of loosing a friend or a partner who may not agree with your idea of swinging. The offer can upset or offend the other person sometimes who has a different mindset. There is various dreaded disease which can be a part of this activity of having different sex partners. So, a swinger needs to be extra cautious and try to have healthy and safer sex.