Swinging Fans

A lot of people see swinging as something highly impossible for them. I don’t really blame them, because our lifestyle can be hard to accept for them. There is no doubt that swinging requires a certain degree of broadness of one’s perspective; you need to be open minded to see the swinging lifestyle proportionally. What most people, especially the ones who cannot see swinging objectively, don’t realize is that swinging is a lot more than just having sexual activities with people other than our spouses.

Swinging is about trust. A lot of people, especially the non-swinger, don’t understand that our lifestyle is about love and trust. In fact, there’s so much love that sex acts don’t actually triggers jealousy or anger; swingers simply know that there are no feelings involved in general and that the love they have for their spouse is far greater than anything imaginable.

When swinging is seen to be a factor that destroys a relationship or a marriage, it is seen from the wrong angle. I have always advised that swinging must be a two-party desire, one that both the male and the female enjoy. If you are dragging, to put it in a blunt way, your spouse to swinging clubs then you are in fact destroying your relationship. Amplified emotions are what swinging actually produces; if you love your spouse than you will love them even more, vice versa. If you have unsolved issues, then swinging will surely get you into a lot of trouble.

For most swinging couple I’ve met, swinging is about saying “I love you too much” to their spouses. It took their marriages to a completely different level and filled it with joy and happiness. Once you know these true essences of swinging, you will be able to enjoy the lifestyle even more.

Swingers are happier in their relationships than those who are not. I know it may seem bloat, but the statement you just read is indeed a fact. A scientific research was conducted using the help of internet questionnaires and the results of that research come to everybody’s surprise. 90% of swingers with bad relationship said that they improve their bond and overall relationship pleasures after swinging. Although the research can be biased, especially because internet questionnaires can be quite biased sometimes, but there are couples who live a better marriage after swinging.

In order to be able to improve their relationships with their real spouse, swingers must know several rules and points. The first is to be completely open about the swinging itself. If you are having sex with someone other than your spouse without them knowing, you are simply cheating and not swinging. Your partner also need to accept the idea of swinging and not feel threatened or rejects the idea altogether. They need to enjoy the process as well for the benefits to be mutual, and without this swinging will only dooms a marriage or a relationship.

Another important factor is how strong your emotional bonds and commitments to your spouse are. Swinging is not just about having sex with other people, it is about allowing both parties to have fun. It is only natural than one party desires swinging more than the other, but that doesn’t mean the hold-out party not being able to enjoy the process is acceptable. You need to make sure both parties have fun for it to actually improve your marriages instead of causing grudges and ruining the relationship.

So does swinging improve relationships? I think it is safe to say that, with proper approach, it can very much improve relationships and marriages.